My Year in Review

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So here we are, just a few days away from 2018! This year seriously feels like it flew. I know most people will say that about every year but, honestly, it feels like a blur.

2017 was a year of many changes for me. I started off the year as a newlywed, less than one month in. Not only that but I also rang in 2017 by lonesome self…and Meeko! My husband had to work and believe people when they say, “how you start the year is how it’ll go for you.”

Ever since the year started I spent a lot of time alone, adjusting to my new life in Guam. Marriage was definitely difficult! ***To everyone who makes it seem like such a breeze on social media and in public, props to you, you’re either VERY HAPPY or deserve an Oscar!*** The first half of my year was spent mostly in my home. Literally…IN MY HOME! I’m surprised I didn’t go crazy. I had quit my job of more than five years to move to Guam and also sold my recently paid off car. So needless to say, I was an unemployed and carless housewife! Why didn’t I go outside or walk places you may ask? Let’s just say there is nothing walking distance around, weather isn’t the best for walking, and there are plenty of stray dogs. During my self-inflicted house arrest, I watched a lot of Netflix, and decided I needed another dog to keep me company. That is where Olive came in to our lives. At just one or two weeks old we bought Olive off a man who was desperate to get rid of her. I hand raised this little puppy until she opened her eyes, ears, and was able to walk and eat on her own. Another thing I accomplished in Guam was learning how to cook! & with the cooking came the eating. Unfortunately, due to my very inactive life in Guam, I gained 30 lbs…yes 30! I had worked so hard to get myself in shape and reach my fitness goals for it all to just go down the drain in a few months.

Fast forward into July and we were up and moving across country to Washington. We bought our first home together and I bought a new car (Yay, Freedom!). Once we settled into our home we started volunteering at a local animal shelter, and if anyone knows me they’d know that was a bad idea! Three days into volunteering, we came home with Jack. About a month or two after arriving I was fortunate enough to have found a job in a field related to my Bachelors Degree. I chopped off my hair, I lifted my lashes, and I got ACRYLICS for the first time in years. Lastly, I decided to start blogging! I love to write and I love social media so this definitely felt right for me.

There have been so many new things that have happened this year that it amazes me how so much can happen in what seems to be such little time! Regardless of it all I feel so blessed and grateful to have good health, a loving family, new and old friends, and a job I love. I am definitely ready for 2018 and everything it has to offer!

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Stay tuned for my New Year resolutions on my next post! 🙂

Military Wife Life: Moving

One of the most important things to realize before getting married with a military man/woman is that you will be moving…A LOT! I knew ever since I started dating Matthew (my husband) that moving around would be a possibility if we ever got married. Once he proposed, I had a few months to accept my fate and say my goodbyes. It was such a rollercoaster process because one day I felt like I was ready to leave everyone and the next I felt like I wanted to break down in tears.

Then the day finally came; the day I was going to leave everything I ever knew behind. I was leaving my family, dog, friends, neighbors, coworkers…the city I grew up in. I boarded that plane and headed to my new home, Guam.

The first few days in Guam were great! I felt like I was on a long-term vacation. Then, after a month, I started missing EVERYTHING. I didn’t have a job, a car, or anyone to talk to other than my husband. I was used to being an independent woman who was always surrounded by her people. In Guam though, I felt like a prisoner in my own home and I was always so lonely. I tried making friends with some military spouses through a Facebook group but that didn’t work out as planned. There was a huge age difference, and in reality a huge personality gap!

Things weren’t all bad though. Towards the end of my time in Guam I made friends with some great people: some military, some local. Yet, I knew the time would come again when I would have to move and leave those friends I made behind.

So the day came and went again where I packed up and left the new life I was building behind. Our new duty station was closer to home, yet still not close enough. I had to start all over again. This time around though it feels a little different. I quickly got a job, a car, and have met some great people (yes through FB military wives groups and some through work)!

Of course I still miss my family and friends, whom I haven’t seen in over a year now, but I am learning to love and accept my new life. At this point my husband and I are ready to settle down for good here, but as we all know it is never a sure thing in the military. Who knows where we will be in two years?!

***I’d love to hear others moving experiences in the comments***

Military Wife Life: Holidays

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I clearly remember when my sister joined the Navy. Part of me was proud of her for being so brave, but the other part was devastated because I felt like I was loosing my best friend. Birthdays and holidays apart were hard on my parents, my brother, and myself. Add to that the fact that we couldn’t bare the thought of her spending those days alone in her barracks.

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**FAST FORWARD A FEW YEARS**

Last year I got married, moved to Guam, and also spent my first Christmas away from my friends and family. It was such a depressing time for me. I knew I should be happy because it was my first Christmas by my husband’s side, but I just couldn’t catch the holiday cheer. One of my favorite parts about Christmas is decorating with my loved ones, which I wasn’t able to partake in. We didn’t have anything other than a small, bare tree and our stockings as decorations. When it came to opening gifts, I was grateful for what I received, but all I wanted was to be with my family.

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This year I will be spending Thanksgiving by myself because my husband works. It will also be  the second year that I spend Christmas away from my family, third away from my sister.  Although I know I will obviously miss my friends and family, I have made up my mind that I will not let sadness take over! I already started buying Christmas decorations, so my house will look cheerful, and am planning a dinner menu for Thanksgiving with my dogs. My holidays will be full of FaceTime calls and Netflix binges and I will make sure to make the most out of them.

I know that as military spouses we spend a lot of time away from our friends and family, hey even from our S.O. That is why we need to make sure we take care of ourselves and try avoiding the dark pit of depression. Some ideas of stuff you can do: attend community events, have a dinner party with other wives who will also be alone, volunteer your time at a local shelter. Whatever you do make sure that it is something you will enjoy! If you have any other ideas or comments I’d love to hear them 🙂

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The Military Wife Life

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When I first met my husband, Matthew, I was swept away by the idea of being with someone in the military. I always looked so highly upon that career choice and trust me all those movies, books, and shows about military love did not help. We met, dated, got engaged, and were married all in a year. I love my husband and the life we’re building together, but do I love everything that comes with marrying someone in the  military? NO! There is so much that comes with being a military wife that, unless you were born into the life, you would not know about. Through my blog I plan on writing about my personal experiences in this life. Hoping that other military wives won’t feel alone when they feel a certain way or are going through something similar. Communicating with each other through the comments is welcomed (as long as they are not nasty comments). & hey if you need someone to talk/vent to then my email address is just one click away! ‘Til next time gals!