One of the most important things to realize before getting married with a military man/woman is that you will be moving…A LOT! I knew ever since I started dating Matthew (my husband) that moving around would be a possibility if we ever got married. Once he proposed, I had a few months to accept my fate and say my goodbyes. It was such a rollercoaster process because one day I felt like I was ready to leave everyone and the next I felt like I wanted to break down in tears.
Then the day finally came; the day I was going to leave everything I ever knew behind. I was leaving my family, dog, friends, neighbors, coworkers…the city I grew up in. I boarded that plane and headed to my new home, Guam.
The first few days in Guam were great! I felt like I was on a long-term vacation. Then, after a month, I started missing EVERYTHING. I didn’t have a job, a car, or anyone to talk to other than my husband. I was used to being an independent woman who was always surrounded by her people. In Guam though, I felt like a prisoner in my own home and I was always so lonely. I tried making friends with some military spouses through a Facebook group but that didn’t work out as planned. There was a huge age difference, and in reality a huge personality gap!
Things weren’t all bad though. Towards the end of my time in Guam I made friends with some great people: some military, some local. Yet, I knew the time would come again when I would have to move and leave those friends I made behind.
So the day came and went again where I packed up and left the new life I was building behind. Our new duty station was closer to home, yet still not close enough. I had to start all over again. This time around though it feels a little different. I quickly got a job, a car, and have met some great people (yes through FB military wives groups and some through work)!
Of course I still miss my family and friends, whom I haven’t seen in over a year now, but I am learning to love and accept my new life. At this point my husband and I are ready to settle down for good here, but as we all know it is never a sure thing in the military. Who knows where we will be in two years?!
***I’d love to hear others moving experiences in the comments***