I clearly remember when my sister joined the Navy. Part of me was proud of her for being so brave, but the other part was devastated because I felt like I was loosing my best friend. Birthdays and holidays apart were hard on my parents, my brother, and myself. Add to that the fact that we couldn’t bare the thought of her spending those days alone in her barracks.
**FAST FORWARD A FEW YEARS**
Last year I got married, moved to Guam, and also spent my first Christmas away from my friends and family. It was such a depressing time for me. I knew I should be happy because it was my first Christmas by my husband’s side, but I just couldn’t catch the holiday cheer. One of my favorite parts about Christmas is decorating with my loved ones, which I wasn’t able to partake in. We didn’t have anything other than a small, bare tree and our stockings as decorations. When it came to opening gifts, I was grateful for what I received, but all I wanted was to be with my family.
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This year I will be spending Thanksgiving by myself because my husband works. It will also be the second year that I spend Christmas away from my family, third away from my sister. Although I know I will obviously miss my friends and family, I have made up my mind that I will not let sadness take over! I already started buying Christmas decorations, so my house will look cheerful, and am planning a dinner menu for Thanksgiving with my dogs. My holidays will be full of FaceTime calls and Netflix binges and I will make sure to make the most out of them.
I know that as military spouses we spend a lot of time away from our friends and family, hey even from our S.O. That is why we need to make sure we take care of ourselves and try avoiding the dark pit of depression. Some ideas of stuff you can do: attend community events, have a dinner party with other wives who will also be alone, volunteer your time at a local shelter. Whatever you do make sure that it is something you will enjoy! If you have any other ideas or comments I’d love to hear them 🙂